If you're reading this blog post, I am going to challenge you to do something different in your singleness... stop praying for a Boaz. Instead, pray for God to send you your Adam.
Before you click away, hear me out!
You may be wondering why in the world I would encourage you to change your prayers. After all, wasn't Adam the man who fell into sin and was subsequently thrown out of the Garden of Eden?
I'll share something with you the Lord revealed to me several years ago.
When you understand what God defines as a husband (from scripture, not opinion), you will understand what you should look for in a potential husband.
When you view the life of Adam not as a disobedient son, but as the very first husband the Lord created, you will find the journey of manhood into becoming a responsible husband unfolding. Albeit an imperfect human (just like you and I), he was still the first husband.Â
God created Adam, then changed his identity from a man to a husband only after a series of events happened. God spent alone time with Adam, teaching him who he was, and giving him instructions and work assignments. Read Genesis Chapter 2 verses 7 and 15-20.
In light of this understanding, you get a full picture of the type of man God was (and is still today) molding into a husband.
As a single woman, you must understand this deeper meaning of Adam’s life so that you don’t waste your time giving your heart to a man who is not even husband material (a man ready to fulfill his calling from God to cover, love, protect, and lead).
Some men are grown-boys.
Some men are only males (meaning they are adults but aren’t submitted to God in any capacity they are merely existing).
Other men are husbands. They are created and raised by God as evidenced by the working of the Holy Spirit in their lives.
Husbands in the making are single men of valor and standard. They are husbands in training. God can walk with, talk with, and raise only a certain type of man from a male to a boy to a husband.
That's why I stopped praying for a Boaz and started praying for an Adam.
Don't get me wrong, Ruth and Boaz is a great Bible story, but that book was actually not meant to be used as a guideline for love and relationships. The historical context of that book reveals the true meaning and why the book was written: to show us God's faithfulness to his people.
There are six attributes about Adam you must be aware of in dating and relationships to be sure you are ONLY dating a husband in waiting...not a grown-boy or male-only.
I’ve outlined these attributes and provided modern dating advice, simple prayers, and short Bible studies in How to Prepare for Your Future Husband. Visit Sarita’s boutique and get your hard copy or e-book edition to learn more today!
